Live Your Life

Life is too short and long, to not live it on your terms.

adoyo molla
3 min readJul 20, 2023
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I have moments

Moments where I release myself from all the expectations — some that I’ve placed on myself and some that I think are expected of me.

In those moments, I simply do whatever I feel like doing ; no questions asked.

I don’t care about productivity or if what I’m doing makes sense. I simply do whatever it I feel like doing.

What I’ve found is that those are the moments I’m the most myself and possibly the happiest.

When I’m just, being. You know, we are human beings not human doings.

So why not be this way all the time?

Why not do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it and let the chips fall where they may?

Because life happens and life has expectations of me. Mainly, the expectation to be a responsible member of society. Which means I don’t just get to do whatever I want whenever I want to; at least not all the time.

And that’s OK.

Now that I have tasted the joy of being, I will be more intentional about it.

I will make time for moments where I just am. Listen to my heart and do whatever it tells me to do in the moment — of course it better be safe and legal. LOL.

But that’s my commitment. To give myself the permission to be on a daily basis. Not some day in the future that I don’t know about.


I will be more present and appreciate the moments.

I will honour my commitments to life and the commitment to myself.

Above all, I will choose to enjoy whatever it is I am doing — be it doing the reaponsible things or simply being.

When all is said and done, we don’t know when our last breath will be. And that needs to be the main motivation to make sure we are living life to the fullest!

Don’t be too caught up trying to prove a point or show off — go deal with that insecurity in therapy. 😀

Figure out what makes you the happiest and most fulfilled; the kind of life that you’d call, the dream life.

Once you have that in mind, create a plan to achieve it and then start on that journey.

Too many of us are pursuing lives we don’t necessarily care for but we think are the ones expected of us.

Don’t play yourself. Or rather, stop playing yourself. Because we often follow the blueprint society gives us, until we come across an idea that makes us stop and rethink things.

I hope this post today becomes that idea that makes you stop and rethink your life. I hope it acts as a catalyst to get you started on thinking about doing life differently; doing life your way.

And if you’re already doing that, then may this act as a reminder for you to keep choosing you and choosing your joy. 😊

Yes, God better be in the mix. He is your Creator, after all, therefore, He knows you better than you know yourself. Seeking Him is a shortcut to you finding the path to abundant life. He only ever wants what’s the best for you. I promise.

If you don’t believe in God, well, I still wish you well. 🙏🏾

Anyways, it’s 9 am as I type this. I couldn’t sleep until 3 am last night. Watching TikTok to help with the lack of sleep is not a solution, by the way. Just saying. It’s more like pouring gasoline to a fire. 😕

Have the best day and be the best version of you .





adoyo molla

Be Unapologeitcally You! I write for those ready to break societal molds and live life on their terms,, with kindness and empathy.